But Baby, I Just Need One Good One To Stay
When making decisions, big or small, I’ve been obsessed with making pros & cons lists (so much so that I’ve even bought pads of paper with sections and lines clearly defined for each). Since I started doing this years ago, I’ve noticed that my list of cons always outweighs my lists of pros. I attributed this to being realistic, safe and setting myself up not to fail. Seemingly all good things, but a freaking joke as it turns out.
Listing/thinking about/being motivated by all the reasons why we cannot do something, what would happen if it didn’t work out or how things could go wrong are all ways we sabotage ourselves out of what could go right.
So, more recently I’ve done this (and you can too): Think of the reasons why you can*. It takes less time than the latter and will open up possibilities that wouldn’t happen anyway.
Do it now. With the first pending decision that comes to mind (signing up for that training, choosing to change your career, going for a run, organizing that upstairs junk room once and for all). It doesn’t have to be complicated, and you really don’t need a long list of ‘cans’.
As Lady Gaga puts it simply:
“I’ve got a hundred million reasons to walk away
But baby, I just need one good one to stay”
Locate a reason why you can and allow yourself to thrive.
*For the life of me I can’t remember who said this to me a few months ago, but if it was you, send me a shout so I can thank you again.