When you tell learning to take a hike.
Eeny, meeny, miny, blame.
Blame is an easy way out of a difficult situation. It eliminates further thought, work, curiosity, insight etc. In short, blame is a bandaid, a way of thinking brings temporary relief:
- He was wrong and shouldn’t have done that to me. *sighs with relief*
- They aren’t doing it right and ruined everything. *sighs with relief*
- The problem is her bad attitude. *sighs with relief*
- This wouldn’t have happened if he hadn’t ________. *sighs with relief*
- If only I saw this coming and wasn't so stupid. *sighs with relief*
Blame can feel good in the moment as it can make sense of or give an answer to a difficult situation. But: it is limiting. Consider that the warm feeling you get when you're blaming (because you’re right and making others wrong) is actually the fire of possibility going out, flickering and signaling you to notice it. If you were to listen, you might notice the lesson, gain insight into the given situation and maybe even into all parts of your life. If you're willing to listen instead of blame, there is a next step.
If you aren't up for possibility and want to be stuck, start blaming. It’s a tried and true, one stop shop way to completely squash all learning.